Have you ever had one of those “wow! Finally!” moments? This is exactly how I feel now after getting this tumblr account. Iv been meaning to start a new blog for a while. Well I may offend a few with the following statements but I must give everybody here a sneak prev on what I will be ranting and raving about on this page, so here goes… I am a Justin Beiber lover (aka belieber as we have come to be grouped) fashion is me, happiness is I, the Twilight Saga,they call us TWIHARDS #teamedwsrd, is what I was put on this earth to watch out for and Hanna Montana and Miley Cyrus are both my role models even though they are the same person! I definitely get the best of both worlds . I understand all cool things and I breath perfume and bathe in lemons.. Also one thing I have in common with Paris Hilton and Kim Kardashian (apart from astounding wealth and formidable beauty) ahem…is our ability to assist the retail world expand even during the recession (what does that word even mean). These things should not imply that iv got nothing inbetween my ears but you should know that I am the mother of World News, different generes of Music, Cyber space, IT, Programming, the different Design genres and their related technological advances, the Culinary world, Cheer and Laughter, Alcohol and Cigarettes and great clothes. My life revolves around driving up and down the city, mostly like a mad woman on horsepower, and ensuring entertainment is sufficienly distributed (interpret this a you will). I choose to be truthful because If I want to hurt others and hence inspire them to channel different avenues of self expression (like starting a blog or a rant fest on twitter or facebook)I will have made for example, Mark Zuckerberg richer and controbuted to the global economy,thus more power to me. I don’t cry, i’m one of those that was made in China or Chyna as a good friend would have it. Emotions were all stuffed into the hearts of the gay community, the rest of the world population was given reasoning abilities and somthing not so heavy above their shoulders! That said! I might have reduced my chances of attaining a following with that introduction innit? Believe in me and I will do my best! God is love!
Xxoo
Tuesday, September 20, 2011
Carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders again?
Dear Mike Posner, First of all, what makes you think that you shouldn’t be ignored? It’s amazing what ammount of false confidence you have instilled in today’s youth with that dreadful song! I’m yet to meet someone that YOU are cooler than.
Since you have already decided that music, as a career, is lucrative enough to help you complete college in the USA I must commend you for thinking on your toes there, whoosh (wipes sweat off forehead) You almost didn’t graduate! Concerning your cynical view of people that dress well in designer attire and shades as you would have it, it’s sad that you tend to fall on the opposite side of the divide. Therefore, relating to you and also being seen with you, will reflect heavily on our reputation (we cool kids) and also somthing like this could interrupt the rhythm of our social climbing ambitions.
Feeling ostracized is part of life, me for instance not remembering your name is also a part of life - you have to accept this as your fate. Creating a dubut album about what an epic failure you are, isn’t. I think the pressures of having a receeding hairline have finally hit it with you, but please don’t lose it - YET! You are a very…umm..creative..yes! Creative young man and possibly handsome In the eyes of your beholders (read groupies) so there is hope that you could release a sophomore album.
Kindly refrain from making statements such as “ive got you all figured out” that one time you hang out with us was because one of our friends was screwing your friend and you had pot on you, so don’t get it twisted.
In order to alleviate the situation, I hope it helps that I bothered to copy your song into my iPod(I got it from someone in the residence hall) and we all agreed that in the end, you will still always be the sore loser in a huge Pleather jacket who could only seek solace in a virtual world where nobody knows him.
You were too school for cool anyway!
Loads of love and best wishes you one hit NO-WONDER!
The Chik in RayBan’s
Peace and love
xx
Since you have already decided that music, as a career, is lucrative enough to help you complete college in the USA I must commend you for thinking on your toes there, whoosh (wipes sweat off forehead) You almost didn’t graduate! Concerning your cynical view of people that dress well in designer attire and shades as you would have it, it’s sad that you tend to fall on the opposite side of the divide. Therefore, relating to you and also being seen with you, will reflect heavily on our reputation (we cool kids) and also somthing like this could interrupt the rhythm of our social climbing ambitions.
Feeling ostracized is part of life, me for instance not remembering your name is also a part of life - you have to accept this as your fate. Creating a dubut album about what an epic failure you are, isn’t. I think the pressures of having a receeding hairline have finally hit it with you, but please don’t lose it - YET! You are a very…umm..creative..yes! Creative young man and possibly handsome In the eyes of your beholders (read groupies) so there is hope that you could release a sophomore album.
Kindly refrain from making statements such as “ive got you all figured out” that one time you hang out with us was because one of our friends was screwing your friend and you had pot on you, so don’t get it twisted.
In order to alleviate the situation, I hope it helps that I bothered to copy your song into my iPod(I got it from someone in the residence hall) and we all agreed that in the end, you will still always be the sore loser in a huge Pleather jacket who could only seek solace in a virtual world where nobody knows him.
You were too school for cool anyway!
Loads of love and best wishes you one hit NO-WONDER!
The Chik in RayBan’s
Peace and love
xx
She is Pretty... For a Dark Skinned Girl Part II
Some Facts about women:
We are our own worst enemies when it comes to empowering each other.
We do not support each other’s growth and development; instead we bash one another in all manner and form.
We seek refuge in the images given to us by the world on a silver platter and spend our lives trying to live up to the expectations of six billion people of whom 99.99 percent, we do not know.
We follow blindly in the footsteps of those we know will offer us temporary solutions to our long term problems and leave our eyes wide shut to the chance of better living.
Some Facts about black women:
We are not confident enough to embrace our own culture and heritage; this has left room for us to be extremely inundated by slight changes in the flow of the world.
We are no longer interested in feeding our own needs first before fulfilling anybody else’s, we have no identity hence.
We are on a constant prawl for the next thing that will bring us closest to a Caucasian appearance, implying that this is “true beauty” obviously admitting that our own look is as good as a fish on a bicycle (not a sight!)
We do not appreciate diversity as a means to the end as intended by God in the first place (ref. Genesis Chapter 1 through 10)
Other facts
So many women in our society today have taken to the belief that anything that is not dark, or brown, is beautiful. The one gift given by God and is most unappreciated is the diversity in human beings. Women especially have taken this on another tangent that is proving to be more and more dangerous than just a simple concern for the society. In our society, conforming is the norm and “being like” is the term, black women have reverted to a point where it is more important to give the illusion of being like a white person than behaving like a cultured and well brought up person. The number of black women that do not feel appreciated and secure has vastly increased and so has the need to bleach their skin in order to be in the market (whichever market that is).
Being darker skinned for a black girl is comparable to a curse that has one bound for eternity (ref. society’s preferences); they can never look at a girl and tell her that she is gorgeous, when in actual sense she truly is, just because she is a tone down from all their expectations of this certain gorgeous. Instead synonyms such as ethnic and or African beauty or chocolate girl are employed and meant to make one feel like she fits in somewhere. We have even coined a new phrase “she is pretty…for a dark skinned girl” how juvenile! I wonder what Dr. Martin Luther King would do if he lived in our time (WWMLKD-what Would Martin Luther King Do)
We have made ourselves believe that men will not look at us or accept us if we do not fit into their quota of beauty that includes brightened skin and Caucasian looks. Not even by the greatness we have achieved in our lives and the people that we have come to be. Yes. We have stooped as low as making males choose our identity for us, and help us define our path in a not so very constructive manner. These so called “men” have proceeded to put pressure on women by indirectly suggesting their preferences through all channels possible, and being the driving force behind all sorts of negative demeaning pressures and challenges all black women will ever face in their life time. We bend over backwards and peg our every move on how to “improve” our looks much to their delight.
The way that we have seen the different color skinned girls treated in this day and age is alarming, when you watch television its nothing but almost white girls (originally black or bi racial) in all your commercials, music videos, even singers and actresses and you wonder whether the dark skinned girl ever made it to the auditions. Beyonce was always looked at as one of the hottest members of destiny’s child while Kelly Rowland took a back seat and was always considered the odd one out, not pretty, weird, bitchy. These stereotypes have reflected greatly on our viewers at home and they now perceive what they see on there as the holy truth.
You can keep Beyonce, thank you. I’ll have two Kelly Rowlands.
Disclaimer:
I would never like to put anyone else down by making this seem like a sermon about dark skinned women being the Jesus’ and shun everybody else. It is important to acknowledge that people are born different and have no choice in how they turn out to be, it is also importance to preach that we should embrace ourselves for who we are and appreciate our cultures and upbringing. We are therefore at liberty to entertain and mingle in other cultures as we please, as long as you are always a true representation of yourself.
It makes me sad to know that after the pain and torment black people have been through, we have still managed to come out the victims of our own struggle, we are now almost “racist” in our thoughts and deeds towards the different versions of ourselves. We have made a majority of girls insecure and afraid to believe in their own capabilities to come forth as the strong, brilliant and empowered women of the world because of the kind of segregation we have bestowed upon them.
I wonder who sets these kinds of standards in our society, is there a board of directors and trustees entrusted with this over the moon task of painting the world white? What a brilliant job. They must be the Picassos of our day with such refined skills. It must be the highest paying job in the world, bearing the weight of billions of the world’s population on your shoulder and daunting thousands more, I’m pretty sure whoever you are you wake up every day with the confidence of a thousand Spartans thinking that you have added value to the world. Pathetic.
Women for centuries have been oppressed and then when we have just overcome the final hurdle we realize that we still have to compete with ways of the world. The last thing any woman needs in this trying times is to have to cope with a rotten society, we need to be empowered and to seek happiness from within ourselves the kind of happiness that even when you are alone in the confines of your bedroom left only with your thoughts, you are able to smile and be satisfied with all the things you have done and decisions you have made.
One of the mysteries about skin altering I came across after watching the Tyra show one evening was as follows:
Some women are willing to do almost anything to lighten the color of their skin … including the use of bleach, despite the negative or harmful side effects. What’s really scary is that you can buy bleaching creams in stores across the country. While these creams are intended to be used on small spots to reduce scarring, as we saw on the show, some women slather creams over their entire bodies. But is the result worth the risk — even if the risk is cancer? Read on for the scary side effects of these controversial creams.
Mercury
Even small doses of Mercury can cause neurological damage. This concern is so great, Minnesota has outlawed cosmetics like skin lighteners that intentionally feature it. But some “mom and pop” shops carry creams with that contain extreme levels of such ingredients.
Hydroquinone
This component of many skin-bleaching techniques is also found in film developing products. (Note: Your body is a work of art, but should you treat it like a chemically processed photo in a darkroom? We think not!) The idea of using this ingredient didn’t sound good to the French, who banned it for fear of cancer risks.
Alpha Hydroxy Acids
These are most commonly found in facial chemical peels, which are better known as procedures reserved for serious and infrequent skin overhauls administered by professionals. These should not be in anything you use at home regularly.
Arsenic
Most people hear this word and immediately think “poison,” which is exactly what arsenic is. Not something you want to find on the list of ingredients in your face cream, but that might be the case with some skin lighteners.
SO WATCH WHAT YOU ARE PUTTING ON!
I hope that I can start up a conversation with this cause and let all the women out there know that they are beautiful no matter their skin tone and race. We need to create an atmosphere where we make our own standards and respect each other, this way we block out all negativity that comes in with the breeze of the ‘MANsoon’ and all other aspects of society that advocate for the destruction of women and their self esteem. This is just the beginning of something great, only as soon as we realize what we are capable of achieving.
peace and love
xx
We are our own worst enemies when it comes to empowering each other.
We do not support each other’s growth and development; instead we bash one another in all manner and form.
We seek refuge in the images given to us by the world on a silver platter and spend our lives trying to live up to the expectations of six billion people of whom 99.99 percent, we do not know.
We follow blindly in the footsteps of those we know will offer us temporary solutions to our long term problems and leave our eyes wide shut to the chance of better living.
Some Facts about black women:
We are not confident enough to embrace our own culture and heritage; this has left room for us to be extremely inundated by slight changes in the flow of the world.
We are no longer interested in feeding our own needs first before fulfilling anybody else’s, we have no identity hence.
We are on a constant prawl for the next thing that will bring us closest to a Caucasian appearance, implying that this is “true beauty” obviously admitting that our own look is as good as a fish on a bicycle (not a sight!)
We do not appreciate diversity as a means to the end as intended by God in the first place (ref. Genesis Chapter 1 through 10)
Other facts
So many women in our society today have taken to the belief that anything that is not dark, or brown, is beautiful. The one gift given by God and is most unappreciated is the diversity in human beings. Women especially have taken this on another tangent that is proving to be more and more dangerous than just a simple concern for the society. In our society, conforming is the norm and “being like” is the term, black women have reverted to a point where it is more important to give the illusion of being like a white person than behaving like a cultured and well brought up person. The number of black women that do not feel appreciated and secure has vastly increased and so has the need to bleach their skin in order to be in the market (whichever market that is).
Being darker skinned for a black girl is comparable to a curse that has one bound for eternity (ref. society’s preferences); they can never look at a girl and tell her that she is gorgeous, when in actual sense she truly is, just because she is a tone down from all their expectations of this certain gorgeous. Instead synonyms such as ethnic and or African beauty or chocolate girl are employed and meant to make one feel like she fits in somewhere. We have even coined a new phrase “she is pretty…for a dark skinned girl” how juvenile! I wonder what Dr. Martin Luther King would do if he lived in our time (WWMLKD-what Would Martin Luther King Do)
We have made ourselves believe that men will not look at us or accept us if we do not fit into their quota of beauty that includes brightened skin and Caucasian looks. Not even by the greatness we have achieved in our lives and the people that we have come to be. Yes. We have stooped as low as making males choose our identity for us, and help us define our path in a not so very constructive manner. These so called “men” have proceeded to put pressure on women by indirectly suggesting their preferences through all channels possible, and being the driving force behind all sorts of negative demeaning pressures and challenges all black women will ever face in their life time. We bend over backwards and peg our every move on how to “improve” our looks much to their delight.
The way that we have seen the different color skinned girls treated in this day and age is alarming, when you watch television its nothing but almost white girls (originally black or bi racial) in all your commercials, music videos, even singers and actresses and you wonder whether the dark skinned girl ever made it to the auditions. Beyonce was always looked at as one of the hottest members of destiny’s child while Kelly Rowland took a back seat and was always considered the odd one out, not pretty, weird, bitchy. These stereotypes have reflected greatly on our viewers at home and they now perceive what they see on there as the holy truth.
You can keep Beyonce, thank you. I’ll have two Kelly Rowlands.
Disclaimer:
I would never like to put anyone else down by making this seem like a sermon about dark skinned women being the Jesus’ and shun everybody else. It is important to acknowledge that people are born different and have no choice in how they turn out to be, it is also importance to preach that we should embrace ourselves for who we are and appreciate our cultures and upbringing. We are therefore at liberty to entertain and mingle in other cultures as we please, as long as you are always a true representation of yourself.
It makes me sad to know that after the pain and torment black people have been through, we have still managed to come out the victims of our own struggle, we are now almost “racist” in our thoughts and deeds towards the different versions of ourselves. We have made a majority of girls insecure and afraid to believe in their own capabilities to come forth as the strong, brilliant and empowered women of the world because of the kind of segregation we have bestowed upon them.
I wonder who sets these kinds of standards in our society, is there a board of directors and trustees entrusted with this over the moon task of painting the world white? What a brilliant job. They must be the Picassos of our day with such refined skills. It must be the highest paying job in the world, bearing the weight of billions of the world’s population on your shoulder and daunting thousands more, I’m pretty sure whoever you are you wake up every day with the confidence of a thousand Spartans thinking that you have added value to the world. Pathetic.
Women for centuries have been oppressed and then when we have just overcome the final hurdle we realize that we still have to compete with ways of the world. The last thing any woman needs in this trying times is to have to cope with a rotten society, we need to be empowered and to seek happiness from within ourselves the kind of happiness that even when you are alone in the confines of your bedroom left only with your thoughts, you are able to smile and be satisfied with all the things you have done and decisions you have made.
One of the mysteries about skin altering I came across after watching the Tyra show one evening was as follows:
Some women are willing to do almost anything to lighten the color of their skin … including the use of bleach, despite the negative or harmful side effects. What’s really scary is that you can buy bleaching creams in stores across the country. While these creams are intended to be used on small spots to reduce scarring, as we saw on the show, some women slather creams over their entire bodies. But is the result worth the risk — even if the risk is cancer? Read on for the scary side effects of these controversial creams.
Mercury
Even small doses of Mercury can cause neurological damage. This concern is so great, Minnesota has outlawed cosmetics like skin lighteners that intentionally feature it. But some “mom and pop” shops carry creams with that contain extreme levels of such ingredients.
Hydroquinone
This component of many skin-bleaching techniques is also found in film developing products. (Note: Your body is a work of art, but should you treat it like a chemically processed photo in a darkroom? We think not!) The idea of using this ingredient didn’t sound good to the French, who banned it for fear of cancer risks.
Alpha Hydroxy Acids
These are most commonly found in facial chemical peels, which are better known as procedures reserved for serious and infrequent skin overhauls administered by professionals. These should not be in anything you use at home regularly.
Arsenic
Most people hear this word and immediately think “poison,” which is exactly what arsenic is. Not something you want to find on the list of ingredients in your face cream, but that might be the case with some skin lighteners.
SO WATCH WHAT YOU ARE PUTTING ON!
I hope that I can start up a conversation with this cause and let all the women out there know that they are beautiful no matter their skin tone and race. We need to create an atmosphere where we make our own standards and respect each other, this way we block out all negativity that comes in with the breeze of the ‘MANsoon’ and all other aspects of society that advocate for the destruction of women and their self esteem. This is just the beginning of something great, only as soon as we realize what we are capable of achieving.
peace and love
xx
She is Pretty... For a Dark Skinned Girl
She walks the walk, she talks the talk
She looks the part; you feed off of her energy
She is confident and happy, but bound and broken
She loves and lives, but cries and doubts, although
She is beautiful, but she doesn’t know it.
She mocks herself, and stabs herself
She bleeds endlessly, and never moves on
She hates herself, she hates her fate
She feels alone, she needs to know why
She is beautiful, but she doesn’t know it.
She can dive and delve, in the contours of pigment
She is sensual and she is beautiful
She is cautious and she is versatile
She is a mirror of her society, to me
She is beautiful, and I know it.
She sheds the tears, of the African sun
She shouts the cry, of a bold spirit
She deserves a toast, for she plays her part
She was, she is, she will always be because
She is beautiful and she must know it.
She looks the part; you feed off of her energy
She is confident and happy, but bound and broken
She loves and lives, but cries and doubts, although
She is beautiful, but she doesn’t know it.
She mocks herself, and stabs herself
She bleeds endlessly, and never moves on
She hates herself, she hates her fate
She feels alone, she needs to know why
She is beautiful, but she doesn’t know it.
She can dive and delve, in the contours of pigment
She is sensual and she is beautiful
She is cautious and she is versatile
She is a mirror of her society, to me
She is beautiful, and I know it.
She sheds the tears, of the African sun
She shouts the cry, of a bold spirit
She deserves a toast, for she plays her part
She was, she is, she will always be because
She is beautiful and she must know it.
RULES
ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their
conversational skills will be as important as any other.
THREE. Don’t believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you
want.
FOUR. When you say, ‘I love you,’ mean it.
FIVE. When you say, ‘I’m sorry,’ look the person in the eye.
SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.
EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone’s dream. People who don’t have dreams don’t
have much.
NINE . Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it’s the only
way to live life completely.
TEN. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
ELEVEN. Don’t judge people by their relatives.
TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.
THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question you don’t want to answer, smile
and ask, ‘Why do you want to know?’
FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great
risk.
FIFTEEN. Say ‘bless you’ when you hear someone sneeze.
SIXTEEN. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson !
SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R’s: Respect for self; Respect for others;
and Responsibility for all your actions.
EIGHTEEN. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship..
NINETEEN. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to
correct it.
TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone.. The caller will hear it in your
voice.
TWENTY-ONE. Spend some time alone.
and thou shall live happily ever after…
peace and love xx
TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their
conversational skills will be as important as any other.
THREE. Don’t believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you
want.
FOUR. When you say, ‘I love you,’ mean it.
FIVE. When you say, ‘I’m sorry,’ look the person in the eye.
SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.
EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone’s dream. People who don’t have dreams don’t
have much.
NINE . Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it’s the only
way to live life completely.
TEN. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
ELEVEN. Don’t judge people by their relatives.
TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.
THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question you don’t want to answer, smile
and ask, ‘Why do you want to know?’
FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great
risk.
FIFTEEN. Say ‘bless you’ when you hear someone sneeze.
SIXTEEN. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson !
SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R’s: Respect for self; Respect for others;
and Responsibility for all your actions.
EIGHTEEN. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship..
NINETEEN. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to
correct it.
TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone.. The caller will hear it in your
voice.
TWENTY-ONE. Spend some time alone.
and thou shall live happily ever after…
peace and love xx
Mwanamke ni Kujipanga
This statement makes more and more sense to me as time goes by. Women have made themselves a subject of men’s ridicule for a long enough time, and it is sad that we choose to do nothing about it. Women for centuries have been known to hold the household together despite only being liberated in recent years. It is the drive of a woman to see life through; no matter what circumstance she has found herself in and come out on top, that has puzzled me. Through raising children , being the backbone of the man in her life and still finding time to develop herself as a woman she has been able to break all imaginable boundaries. “mwanamke ni kujipanga” is a phrase that has been coined to subconsciously empower women by looking at life in a way that is not usual in the eyes of the ordinary person. It means being a woman is to be organized.
When I first heard this statement I did not think much of it until I took it in a deeper perspective, it may be seen as just being an organized person at a first glance, but true to the word, it is much more than just a read-quick-and-move-forward-statement. I draw from it the meaning that being a woman and in order for life itself to respect you, we need to actually have control of our own destinies and be in the fore front for all matters affecting our immediate lives. Therefore, not allowing secondary matters rampant in today’s society to dictate for us what we will make of our lives. The factors I personally consider a reality and that are most likely to determine a woman’s success:
· A Father
· Education
· Support system
· Career
We underestimate the power of a father in any woman’s life. He serves the purpose of offering
Ø Attention
Ø Affection
Ø Affirmation
Without which any woman is on a path to self destruction. The male dominating figure in a woman’s upbringing allows her to appreciate love from a different angle and also be able to be answerable to authority in a way. Lack of this always leaves a woman looking for love in all the wrong places and having low self worth such that any other outstanding qualities that she may have (aside from being a woman J ) are suppressed. The psychology behind the above is extremely complicated and far from anything I am able to express in this excerpt, but the general appreciation is that male figures throughout a woman’s development and coming into her own plays a major role in how she will eventually turn out to be.
For women to achieve any meaningful socio-economic or political change, they must benefit from the ability to make informed decisions generated from a vantage point of Education. It is so important that we not only go to school and complete the process, but also excel and take it to the highest level possible. We are already at a disadvantage whereby the plight of the girl child for years was just a song sung by many with no accompanied action. Men were already way ahead of us leading in all sorts of industries even more recently those originally associated with women, for example Fashion and the Culinary Arts. It is no longer (and has never been in my sight) trendy to be oblivious and unaware in life, acting “blonde” is nothing but stupid and only gives one a chance to display themselves before a third party as a common idiot. Knowledge, Education, and being Smart are sexy attributes that every woman should be eager to possess.
Just like education, having a support system that works is extremely important mainly because it provides the most conducive environment for the success of a woman. Having an abusive husband/boyfriend, and one who does not support women in their pursuit of happiness, Friends that do not reflect positively in one’s life, children that are demanding and do not support their mother, extended family members that are constantly in the way of the liberation of such women are factors that have dragged down women for a very long time. Yes we are home makers and most of us love it, but at the same time there is more to the woman than just being able to be the one who performs her conjugal rights, gives birth to children and cooks meals for related parties. Let it be known that there are a lot of women who know what they want out of their lives and are not willing to waste their time with unsure parties along their path, in order for us to be able to manage and plan our lives ahead as efficiently as is expected, we need emotional stability, strong will and as clear a conscience as possible. This does not go to say that having these variables means everything will be clear and without challenge hence, contrary to that, there will be far more challenges because of these things and not in spite of them. In a relationship setting, women gain their respect by taking charge of their feelings, actions, their mannerisms even physical attributes; not letting it slide so to speak and also being a leader. I see women allowing themselves to think it is ok to be like a man in all aspects of the word (including the lesbians) the walk, the talk, the attitude and everything else. It is good to be well sure of yourself but not to the extent where it is competition to the men in your life. Womanhood is expensive and we deserve it for all the things we endure in our lives. Value it and embrace it. A woman’s woman is one who is able to maintain a balance of all the above and somehow these things help us gain a strong support base because we become respectable. Think about it.
Our careers are equally as important as any other aspect of our growth, it is a benchmark that goes to show how far we have come and it is the actual fruit of our labour. For women having a career is much more than having a fancy desk to sit in front of every morning and making decisions that will affect employees. It is being able to manage every aspect of your life that includes family, friends, health, work, and spirituality and do them all with love and in love. It is a balanced routine just like a balanced diet, and it distinguishes each woman from the next by how they are able to cope with the pressure exerted from all angles in life. This is the path they choose and dedicate their time to, this is what fulfills any woman and offers gratification in her life. Her career in a way defines her being and purpose and is also a platform for her to surpass expectations, both hers and others.
Wouldn’t we just like to see more self respecting women in our time? Women who have strong values that they believe in, women that put themselves and their needs first before anyone else’s, women that do not go with the flow, women that understand the importance of self development before being able to associate with anybody else. Women who do not travel in packs to scare away/use/attempt to be like men (as a good friend of mine would have it – SKANKS), women that believe in something and have a personal statement and identity, women that know what they want out of life and despite any challenges they may have faced they are not held down looking for sympathy, women that have figured out what they want to do with their lives and will put an end to seeking affirmation from irrelevant parties by always trying to prove a point to the world.
Let it be known what your stand is and make no apologies for it, be brave calculative and inspiring. It just makes you a better person and one that people will love being around!
All love! xx
CHICHI
When I first heard this statement I did not think much of it until I took it in a deeper perspective, it may be seen as just being an organized person at a first glance, but true to the word, it is much more than just a read-quick-and-move-forward-statement. I draw from it the meaning that being a woman and in order for life itself to respect you, we need to actually have control of our own destinies and be in the fore front for all matters affecting our immediate lives. Therefore, not allowing secondary matters rampant in today’s society to dictate for us what we will make of our lives. The factors I personally consider a reality and that are most likely to determine a woman’s success:
· A Father
· Education
· Support system
· Career
We underestimate the power of a father in any woman’s life. He serves the purpose of offering
Ø Attention
Ø Affection
Ø Affirmation
Without which any woman is on a path to self destruction. The male dominating figure in a woman’s upbringing allows her to appreciate love from a different angle and also be able to be answerable to authority in a way. Lack of this always leaves a woman looking for love in all the wrong places and having low self worth such that any other outstanding qualities that she may have (aside from being a woman J ) are suppressed. The psychology behind the above is extremely complicated and far from anything I am able to express in this excerpt, but the general appreciation is that male figures throughout a woman’s development and coming into her own plays a major role in how she will eventually turn out to be.
For women to achieve any meaningful socio-economic or political change, they must benefit from the ability to make informed decisions generated from a vantage point of Education. It is so important that we not only go to school and complete the process, but also excel and take it to the highest level possible. We are already at a disadvantage whereby the plight of the girl child for years was just a song sung by many with no accompanied action. Men were already way ahead of us leading in all sorts of industries even more recently those originally associated with women, for example Fashion and the Culinary Arts. It is no longer (and has never been in my sight) trendy to be oblivious and unaware in life, acting “blonde” is nothing but stupid and only gives one a chance to display themselves before a third party as a common idiot. Knowledge, Education, and being Smart are sexy attributes that every woman should be eager to possess.
Just like education, having a support system that works is extremely important mainly because it provides the most conducive environment for the success of a woman. Having an abusive husband/boyfriend, and one who does not support women in their pursuit of happiness, Friends that do not reflect positively in one’s life, children that are demanding and do not support their mother, extended family members that are constantly in the way of the liberation of such women are factors that have dragged down women for a very long time. Yes we are home makers and most of us love it, but at the same time there is more to the woman than just being able to be the one who performs her conjugal rights, gives birth to children and cooks meals for related parties. Let it be known that there are a lot of women who know what they want out of their lives and are not willing to waste their time with unsure parties along their path, in order for us to be able to manage and plan our lives ahead as efficiently as is expected, we need emotional stability, strong will and as clear a conscience as possible. This does not go to say that having these variables means everything will be clear and without challenge hence, contrary to that, there will be far more challenges because of these things and not in spite of them. In a relationship setting, women gain their respect by taking charge of their feelings, actions, their mannerisms even physical attributes; not letting it slide so to speak and also being a leader. I see women allowing themselves to think it is ok to be like a man in all aspects of the word (including the lesbians) the walk, the talk, the attitude and everything else. It is good to be well sure of yourself but not to the extent where it is competition to the men in your life. Womanhood is expensive and we deserve it for all the things we endure in our lives. Value it and embrace it. A woman’s woman is one who is able to maintain a balance of all the above and somehow these things help us gain a strong support base because we become respectable. Think about it.
Our careers are equally as important as any other aspect of our growth, it is a benchmark that goes to show how far we have come and it is the actual fruit of our labour. For women having a career is much more than having a fancy desk to sit in front of every morning and making decisions that will affect employees. It is being able to manage every aspect of your life that includes family, friends, health, work, and spirituality and do them all with love and in love. It is a balanced routine just like a balanced diet, and it distinguishes each woman from the next by how they are able to cope with the pressure exerted from all angles in life. This is the path they choose and dedicate their time to, this is what fulfills any woman and offers gratification in her life. Her career in a way defines her being and purpose and is also a platform for her to surpass expectations, both hers and others.
Wouldn’t we just like to see more self respecting women in our time? Women who have strong values that they believe in, women that put themselves and their needs first before anyone else’s, women that do not go with the flow, women that understand the importance of self development before being able to associate with anybody else. Women who do not travel in packs to scare away/use/attempt to be like men (as a good friend of mine would have it – SKANKS), women that believe in something and have a personal statement and identity, women that know what they want out of life and despite any challenges they may have faced they are not held down looking for sympathy, women that have figured out what they want to do with their lives and will put an end to seeking affirmation from irrelevant parties by always trying to prove a point to the world.
Let it be known what your stand is and make no apologies for it, be brave calculative and inspiring. It just makes you a better person and one that people will love being around!
All love! xx
CHICHI
A Real Woman
A real Woman knows when to look fly,
When to look shy,
And when to hold her head up high.
A real woman thinks on her feet,
Doesn't move around in a fleet,
And knows when is the right time to throw a bitch fit!
A real woman knows when to hold a man,
When to tell him so scram,
And with all this, how to plan.
A real woman doesn't look back,
She doesn't hold back,
And she definitely got back! J
A real woman loves deeply,
She is friendly, she gives wholly and truly.
She is very kind, but also very hard to find.
A real woman knows when to work hard,
She knows when to play hard,
She knows when to put her house in order
All this, when her heart grows fonder.
When to look shy,
And when to hold her head up high.
A real woman thinks on her feet,
Doesn't move around in a fleet,
And knows when is the right time to throw a bitch fit!
A real woman knows when to hold a man,
When to tell him so scram,
And with all this, how to plan.
A real woman doesn't look back,
She doesn't hold back,
And she definitely got back! J
A real woman loves deeply,
She is friendly, she gives wholly and truly.
She is very kind, but also very hard to find.
A real woman knows when to work hard,
She knows when to play hard,
She knows when to put her house in order
All this, when her heart grows fonder.
Human Nature
Have you ever found yourself stuck within the perimeters of discomfort and distress wondering why life is so difficult? Well, it’s not. Many a time we think that we are in control of our lives without realizing that fate is pre determined destiny wrapped up in little bundles of hints and expectations or ”to do” lists long created for us even before we were formed.
Owing to the Subjective nature of this piece, I will insist that human nature remains at the mercy of energy forces given off by the universe in somewhat of a challenge to test our ”goodness” or ”badness” so to speak. When you live everyday full of rage and anger towards the world, the world will give you the same energy back.. It’s a combined effort of these forces and the supernatural that allows us to find contentment and sanctification, peace and wholesomeness within ourselves (and thus our livelihoods) in the quest for total happiness. It is not a coincidence that monks and other admirable spiritual mentors in our physical world today are deemed as fulfilled and actualized. With the exception, of course, of the monk who gave up his Ferrari to join the movement. He’s definitely lost it
The more you give, without expecting anything back, the more you receive. Philosophy has never been broken down into anything simpler than that. This, friends, is the atom of human nature. If you love endlessly - you will be loved endlessly, if you dedicate your time and energies to study truly and wholesomely - you will prosper in learning, if you make time for the sick and poor - you will receive empathy when you in turn deserve it. Simple. But if you are the kind of person who is stuck in their own mind such that to bring you into the harsh realities of real life will only take a tragedy, I will take 8 seconds off of the time dedicated to this article to remind you that the end is near.
Your calling is to be the best you can be and do the best you can do within your ability, and the blanks will be filled in for you no matter how long it might take. The gestation period for dream realization is not based on anything science can quantify, but she and the true test of patience are blood sisters of blood group BE Positive!
Your first reaction should always be a positive one. It amazes me how human beings have gotten into the culture of taking minutes of their precious time to act as critics of each other and everything else in the world, there are those who that is their calling. Find your own. He who speaks and acts negatively to others as a natural instinct parades himself before the vastness of the world as a common idiot. He/She should remember that even the devil is uncomfortable in the deep depths of the eternal flames in hell, nobody enjoys gloom and sadness. And if they do, they were dropped on the head when they were an infant.
As I come to the end of this article, I wish to mention that the anger I have harbored inside for years, has manifested itself in different ways enough for me to realize that I was standing in my own way and blocking my own blessings. The good thing about life is that nothing lasts forever, as cruel as that might sound, there is always a way out and it does not involve releasing bad energies and giving off negative vibes.
Expect what you accept, nothing less. You are the walking and talking physical manifestation of a supreme being nothing more. Learn to control your mind and guide your heart, be specific and articulate in your needs department. But most of all: work hard, be true, love deeply, express sensitivity be submissive, experience nature, show respect, honor God, live healthily, find joy and happiness in everything and in everyone and if that fails, USE FORCE!
Xoxox
Owing to the Subjective nature of this piece, I will insist that human nature remains at the mercy of energy forces given off by the universe in somewhat of a challenge to test our ”goodness” or ”badness” so to speak. When you live everyday full of rage and anger towards the world, the world will give you the same energy back.. It’s a combined effort of these forces and the supernatural that allows us to find contentment and sanctification, peace and wholesomeness within ourselves (and thus our livelihoods) in the quest for total happiness. It is not a coincidence that monks and other admirable spiritual mentors in our physical world today are deemed as fulfilled and actualized. With the exception, of course, of the monk who gave up his Ferrari to join the movement. He’s definitely lost it
The more you give, without expecting anything back, the more you receive. Philosophy has never been broken down into anything simpler than that. This, friends, is the atom of human nature. If you love endlessly - you will be loved endlessly, if you dedicate your time and energies to study truly and wholesomely - you will prosper in learning, if you make time for the sick and poor - you will receive empathy when you in turn deserve it. Simple. But if you are the kind of person who is stuck in their own mind such that to bring you into the harsh realities of real life will only take a tragedy, I will take 8 seconds off of the time dedicated to this article to remind you that the end is near.
Your calling is to be the best you can be and do the best you can do within your ability, and the blanks will be filled in for you no matter how long it might take. The gestation period for dream realization is not based on anything science can quantify, but she and the true test of patience are blood sisters of blood group BE Positive!
Your first reaction should always be a positive one. It amazes me how human beings have gotten into the culture of taking minutes of their precious time to act as critics of each other and everything else in the world, there are those who that is their calling. Find your own. He who speaks and acts negatively to others as a natural instinct parades himself before the vastness of the world as a common idiot. He/She should remember that even the devil is uncomfortable in the deep depths of the eternal flames in hell, nobody enjoys gloom and sadness. And if they do, they were dropped on the head when they were an infant.
As I come to the end of this article, I wish to mention that the anger I have harbored inside for years, has manifested itself in different ways enough for me to realize that I was standing in my own way and blocking my own blessings. The good thing about life is that nothing lasts forever, as cruel as that might sound, there is always a way out and it does not involve releasing bad energies and giving off negative vibes.
Expect what you accept, nothing less. You are the walking and talking physical manifestation of a supreme being nothing more. Learn to control your mind and guide your heart, be specific and articulate in your needs department. But most of all: work hard, be true, love deeply, express sensitivity be submissive, experience nature, show respect, honor God, live healthily, find joy and happiness in everything and in everyone and if that fails, USE FORCE!
Xoxox
I Do Time
I am a Prisoner of my thoughts,
I get lost in my own imagination,
I feel Pressured,
I run away.
I hide,
I cry,
I yearn,
I want,
I am always in need.
I do time.
I am locked and stuck on my ideas,
I get aroused by confinement,
I feel lonely,
I laugh loudly.
I watch,
I learn,
I give,
I take I am always in need.
I do time.
I am surer of myself now,
I get the affirmation I require,
I feel secure,
I am smarter.
I read,
I write,
I review,
I recite,
I am always in need.
I do time.
BY Chichi
I get lost in my own imagination,
I feel Pressured,
I run away.
I hide,
I cry,
I yearn,
I want,
I am always in need.
I do time.
I am locked and stuck on my ideas,
I get aroused by confinement,
I feel lonely,
I laugh loudly.
I watch,
I learn,
I give,
I take I am always in need.
I do time.
I am surer of myself now,
I get the affirmation I require,
I feel secure,
I am smarter.
I read,
I write,
I review,
I recite,
I am always in need.
I do time.
BY Chichi
A Moment of Truth
The morning seemed very sceptical,
There was the sun kissing the horizon and all,
Had I any idea about the great downfall,
I’d have done everything in my power to prevent the taking away of a dear soul.
The manifestation of this latency,
was greater than the value of the greatest currency,
It takes one with alot of courtesy,
To portray a message such as this with so much mercy.
The sunshine of my life,
The perpetual reason for me to be alive,
Looked intensely into my eyes and gave a sigh.
The ice surrounding my heart melted away,
And it was difficult for me to say,
How heavy the thick cloud raised above me lay.
The last moment we had together was dramatic and slow,
Though I tried to hide, I knew blessed are they who mourn,
I felt a sharp disillusion when I heard him groan,
Because i knew that his soul had flown.
It was time for courage to be gathered,
My feelings were all mixed up like fruits in a blender,
I felt myself grow as light as a feather,
For the person I had lost that day was my father.
By Chichi Onguru
(I did this when I was 16 and still in High School, it was published in an international Anthology Young Writers - Great Minds From Around The Globe Vol II)
There was the sun kissing the horizon and all,
Had I any idea about the great downfall,
I’d have done everything in my power to prevent the taking away of a dear soul.
The manifestation of this latency,
was greater than the value of the greatest currency,
It takes one with alot of courtesy,
To portray a message such as this with so much mercy.
The sunshine of my life,
The perpetual reason for me to be alive,
Looked intensely into my eyes and gave a sigh.
The ice surrounding my heart melted away,
And it was difficult for me to say,
How heavy the thick cloud raised above me lay.
The last moment we had together was dramatic and slow,
Though I tried to hide, I knew blessed are they who mourn,
I felt a sharp disillusion when I heard him groan,
Because i knew that his soul had flown.
It was time for courage to be gathered,
My feelings were all mixed up like fruits in a blender,
I felt myself grow as light as a feather,
For the person I had lost that day was my father.
By Chichi Onguru
(I did this when I was 16 and still in High School, it was published in an international Anthology Young Writers - Great Minds From Around The Globe Vol II)
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